Lobster - The Food of romantic!

Summer is here! Woo-Hoo! You know what always comes with the summer? Well, besides the bugs! Weddings! Yeap, that's right, weddings. But I have another for you. Years after all those wedding what else comes in summer? Nooo, not divorce, Anniversaries. All those who are now married to celebrate their wedding anniversary. Congratulations!

So, are you one of those lucky people who found the love of your life and to celebrate a wedding anniversary this summer? If so I have a suggestion for you. In fact, this particular suggestion could be used for any special occasion birthdays, Valentine's Day, Make Up Day ;-). You get the idea.

As explained in my book "The Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" a romantic dinner is one of the best ways to show your significant other how much you care. Most women love to get all dolled up in makeup, perfume, and a special dress sexy to be taken out by their man and shown some appreciation for years of hard work. But do not kid yourself ladies, men love this too. We all want to feel like we are loved and appreciated, and initiating a romantic dinner at your favorite restaurant will do just that. But what kind of dinner, he says really love and romance?

Well, Harris Poll conducted a telephone survey of 1,015 Americans, age 18 years to find out what would be the best chance anniversary or a special dinner and here's what they found.

Would you believe that more than two in five Americans, which is 42%, consider Lobster is the most romantic food. A spokesman for Red Lobster said: "The lobster dish is ideal for a romantic dinner out or special occasion. It is an exotic delicacy that results in an intimate moment between loved ones because Lobster is hand-held and shareable. Frutti sea, Especially Lobster, is a catalyst for connection like no other food. "

Lobster was not the only food considered Romantic in this poll. Next on the list was steak. 24% of those surveyed said steak was their most romantic dinner. Steak was followed by pulp 10%, 9% shrimp, crab legs and chicken tied at 5%, and pork at 1%.

More than nine out of ten respondents, which is a huge 93% said they would plan to eat at Their favorite restaurant for a special occasion like an Anniversaries, Valentines, etc.

You're done! So for this anniversary, or Valentine's Day coming up, or any other special occasion on the calendar, remember that Lobster is the food of romance.

Bon appetit!
Marie Clare.
Dating Consultant

Telltale signs your spouse is Cheating

If you suspect that someone near and dear to you is cheating, there are signs you can look. A subtle deviation may trigger warning bells. Consider purchasing a GPS vehicle tracking device, so you know exactly where your spouse was, until the last kilometer.

If you really want to know the truth, than is sufficient reason for reading. Some signs that you can give a cheater include:

A sudden increase in time away from home, such as participation of new features, especially alone.
A diminished sexual interest in you.
Increased use of Viagra.
Leaves a room to take a phone call or whispers when many people tend to talk louder on cell phones, especially mobile phones.
Tends to use the computer alone and is more secretive and defensive about it. Such as deleting history of sites visited their Web browser or emptying the Recycle / Trash.
Use your computer when you are asleep.
Has a compulsive need to check e-mail, be online or instant message someone.
Tilt the computer monitor out of sight when you enter the room.
Seems to be particularly interested in your program.
Begins to do the laundry or just to check carefully their clothes.
phone bill goes up or try to hide it.
Have unexplained costs of credit card or bank receipts.
Start transaction give you blame as the flowers.

The scammer knows many of the techniques used by private investigators specializing in this type of work. They know to look for surveillance when they travel to meet their lover. They know that the computer can be monitored. They know that phone numbers can be traced.

If your partner starts to buy condoms, even if you are using birth control pills, this is cause for concern. A semen detection test kit provides clear proof of their infidelity.

It 'important that does not provide any reason to be more cautious and alert. Smart crooks often present some of these precautions:

Never gets involved with someone or your friends know.
always check to see if they are met.
Try not to deviate from their normal time.
The story will fit in a normal day to avoid suspicion.
Never phone numbers stored in their phone, write them down, or gives the person speaking with a fake name, etc.
friends asked to cover for them.
Does not make any calls from your home phone, your spouse or lover might have a recorder connected or cancel Caller ID and * 69 features.
Get a prepaid calling card to use at home or from work or pay phones.
Remove the phone call history often.
Do not use a credit card to pay for restaurants or hotels, EZ-Pass and cash, or anything that leaves a trace.
Always cover with showers or cologne, etc. before returning home after a romantic date.
When they meet, says he does not wear perfume or cologne on their lover, or wear the same brand as yours. It keeps the business away from places where friends and colleagues could see them.
Arrive separately in clubs or restaurants.
They seek to ensure that the lover has to cheat as much to lose what if their relationship is discovered.
They may bring "evidence" of which they were last night around like matchsticks or leave a receipt to be discovered. This is especially true if you suspect.

Ask yourself why are cheating. There are many possibilities, like a midlife crisis, the arrival of a new baby, or simply boredom, and you should review. This knowledge will be important if you decide to confront your cheating spouse. Then again, you may want to keep this secret and use it as grounds for divorce.

In Love? Do not throw out the baby with the bathwater

While Internet dating sites promise to help find a person "compatible", our intuition, and a look around confirms that the married people we know what usually happens is that "opposites attract."

Naturally it is important how you define "compatible", and researchers and theorists are pursuing. We constantly study of attraction and romance, because those who marry may be the most important decision you make in your life, and the divorce rate in the United States right now is 50% for first marriages, 60% for second marriages and 70% for third marriages. The number of single adults increases every year, when we know that marriage is beneficial to our health, and isolation is more harmful than obesity, hypertension and smoking ... combined. (And a roommate does not count.)

What does "compatible. And 'physical attraction to be similar in terms of energy, intelligence, age, socio-economic status, occupation, sexual desire, values, temperament, Keirsey type? Possess the same type of dog? Ask three different people and get three different answers, but why bother? We all know people mis-matched on any or all of the above who are happily married.

It defies logic.

I know two married couples where the man is 23 years older than the woman. Just a couple split up, married four years, divided by 2. B couple just celebrated their 10th anniversary, and are referred to as "a marriage made in heaven."

One thing is certain: we know when we get married to be compatible because we are planning to live together forever. We are confident of this because the hormones that fall in love have done their work, which is to make us feel this way.

When we fall in love we fly on a number of "details" and this is the way it is supposed to be. We focus on the similarities and all the good points, enlarged them and glorify them. We can not believe our luck in finding someone who is absolutely perfect for us.

We fall in love with someone, but we also love to traits that are "balancing." Neil is serious, organized and discreet and loves Martha is a spontaneous free spirit. Sarah is tough, hard-driven and Achiever loves that Jose is a laid-back, compassionate people-person. Tony and Anna are two romantic, doctors left-brain, but Tony is an extrovert, with a large extended family that gets along great, Anna, the introverted, did not, and she loves that about him.

So we get married, sure of our choice, and what happens 2, 3 years later? There are arguments that it is quite clear that we see things from very different point-of view, and suddenly focusing on a trait of our partners, the negative label, and this then spread to encompass the whole person. Push to go silly, we conclude that are not compatible, after all, we married the wrong person, and we retire in a divorce emotional, if not legal.

This is because it is a good reason to get married when you're ready to love, not when you're in love. When those strong chemical bond-first start to wane, Katy-bar-the-door.

Generally, small differences on points that hide deep-rooted convictions, like what he would have behaved as if he really loved you, what a responsible wife would fix for dinner, like a husband should make love, and that work a married woman should have.

Take Neil and Martha. Neil likes things organized, and Martha, free spirit who is as good as you think 2:30 is 2:00 or even 3:00. After she showed up late a few times, Neil decides she is "irresponsible" despite the fact that you are responsible for anyone's definition, about children, his work, and even the car. It does not matter to Neil. His definition of "responsible" and "suitable wife" understands that he must be on time. Locks into position.

At the same time, notices that Martha started collecting on her about punctuality, and this is depressing you, Because your definition of "a good husband" is "someone who loves me just the way I am", and she "hates nit-pickers." Martha quickly decides that Neil, a good breadwinner, a patient father, and a satisfying lover, not a suitable husband.

Getting along is not about compatibility, it's learning to get along, and you learn by doing it. Actually, it was said, that's where our worlds overlap, an area sometimes alarmingly small, But if you must be right, instead of in the report, you will be right and just.

My mother always told me when I was in this way: "Do not throw out the baby with the bathwater."

The quality of mercy is not strained and in the realm of non-lethal defects that we all have, it's best to stay focused on good, and the overall picture. When we zero in a negative thing, it assumes a life of its own, and "I prefer it if he put the toilet paper so that it rolls down, not up," turns into "I can not live with someone who has inconsiderate and selfish and I'm out of here ", or" throwing the baby out with the bathwater. "

The irony is that what you loved most in him ', the thing that attracted you to him first will be the thing that guides you NUTS 3 years later. Why? I do not know why. You tell me.

I only know what is sad to hear someone say: "She was sweet, and good boys, but, God love her, she could not have organized" or "It was a good provider, and faithful, but kept the cans of soup literacy in the pantry. "

When I'm not aware of the symbolic significance of these crimes, and the tremendous emotional investment individuals have put into this quiz, is incomprehensible. As one who likes to push a absurdo argument, I think to myself, would rather have a serial killer who did not alphabetize the soup cans, or if it had been neglected and average children, but it was very Organized he would be happy?

Or, we clearly can not tell the whole story. Can?

I like when I hear someone say, when the stories of war from the beginning, "Yes, my ex wore white socks to work but that is not divorced him," because I like to think that helps raise consciousness.

People learn, sometimes, unfortunately. We read on the Internet dating sites that have thrown the baby out with the bathwater, "I learned that no matter how you roll the toothpaste tube," and "life is too short to be upset over what color the walls of stay are. "

Falling in love is the easiest thing in the world. Learning to love when you do not love most, is where the rubber hits the road. If you're lucky, you have a lot of time, and only the right person to carry on - that "active, athletic hunk" You're married now "does not care about anything but golf," and that "strong, bright lady "Are you married, who" thinks he knows everything and tries to tell me what to do. "

Go for it!

Attraction: Is it worth it?

The common scenario:

Your partner is hardly ever home to give attention and when at home, he is worried about his routine. The two then start collecting small things for each other. This makes you feel misunderstood and lonely down on yourself.

One day you are after commissions domestic work and noticed a male colleague. He comes to you and asks you to join him for coffee. You agree and the two of you talk and laugh. Then exchange email addresses and next thing you know, you're waiting to speak with him again and maybe even your job a little sympathy '.

Weeks pass and the excitement ebbs just a little 'how do you feel guilty and confused. You begin to have obsessive thoughts as a contributor wants the two of you to have some alone. Your wandering if could bring happiness that is missing in your life at home, if the grass is truly greener on the other side.

What do you do?

You're Only Human:

And 'human nature for you to know that you are loved and desired or wanted. Of course, some are simply addicted to the feeling of excitement you get while going through an attraction with someone other than their partners. feel insecure and lack confidence in themselves can make a person think and do things sometimes uncomfortable when receiving attention from another. In fact, 274 to 703 people lacking intimacy altogether from their partners. Most people yearn for passion in their lives almost more than they want or need money. The media puts great emphasis on it through the internet, cinema, television, radio, magazines and books. I can not count how many times I read a juicy romance novel and wanted to pummel my husband with it as he was fired on the couch.

Paying The Piper Of Desire:

The desire for love is over rated and misunderstood everywhere and many relationships are torn apart by perceptions of what a person thinks they need to fill a void in their lives. They'll practically sell their souls for romance, passion, desire and arousal. Something that their partner can not or will not give. But then, never communicate with their partners about what they need so how can they know that you can not get? The few who have discussed their needs and desires with their partners still do not receive it at the moment that justifies their actions. Very rarely or party gain anything but guilt and self-loathing. Not to mention, what others feel and think about them when they decide to act on their attraction or infatuation.

When ... phase:

Infatuation is a strong, stupid, but transitory, attachment to someone or something. The attraction is similar but not made. In a survey I conducted, the average person that experienced attraction or infatuation was thirty-something category. Many people, especially women, go through an extreme step, at this stage of life. Dress up the mirror and find the crow's feet or laugh lines forming. Looking back to see what has been done and what has not. Wondering what's out there. We all go through it and does take a toll on our self-esteem.

Use It or Lose It:

Personally, infatuation with someone other than your partner can actually put spark into a stale relationship. In my personal survey, 19% said that their relationship and feelings with their partners were positively stronger after their infatuation for another. On the other hand, 31% said they never changed their relationship at all because they never told their partner and never acted on their feelings.

Many people make the mistake of acting on their undeniable infatuation while otherwise committed to another. Out of 294 males, 124 have cheated on their partner and 122 out of 326 females did the same. Approximately 30% of my buyers inquiry staff advising others in similar situations to be "careful" because "not worth it" or "recognize the attraction for what it is and do not read more into it." On a positive note, 37% of those who have the survey did not act on their attraction.

Is This Love?

The definition of love, a feeling that animates a person who is dedicated, sincere and passionate about another person or thing you want to activate. No wonder so many confuse infatuation and attraction with love! The similarities are obvious. But the key words are "devotees" and "desire actively". Love for another is long-term, a more grounded feeling of infatuation or attraction. None of the situations in my personal investigation led love or marriage with another person. Although, 44% led to a serious sexual relationship but neither case ended up as a simple one-night stand. For most, 27% say it is just a memory that you would prefer to forget. And only 27% hope to see that person again.

Rewind and re:

Then why most of us so hell-bent on the thrill of infatuation or always wondering if the next person is "the one" even though we're already in a commitment? It 's all about ourselves. What you're not getting and refuse to ask for and give in return. How do we feel about ourselves or see through the eyes of another. Our boredom with a current situation. Not to mention, some of us are just thrill-seekers and taboo-addicts.

Recently, I came across a quote from SavvyMale.com in attraction.

"Come into the garden to look at the flowers, not weeds.
People are attracted to different looking flowers. But even some pretty flowers stink once we try to smell them. "

I think the moral of this quote is, physical attraction is important at first. Only when you try to explore more qualities will we know if there is chemistry and most times not. However, if we are already committed to another, we can still watch the most beautiful flowers, just leave them alone. Instead, share your feelings of their beauty with your partner and cultivate your garden as beautiful as a couple. There is a greater chance of being your grass greener for all.

© 2005 Audrey King

Love advice: Surprise Your Love

Dating unknowingly become just a habit for you? Becoming not as fun and exciting as before, as when the two of you just started going out together? Well, I do not mean that there is a problem in your relationship. In reality this is a very common thing. Over time, as a couple to know and understand each other better, of course enter into a comfort zone with another. It is within this comfort zone that they begin to share with another more than their own personal life, building a mutual trust and a stronger link in the report. However, it is also at this time all the surprises and emotions somehow get lesser and lesser during their dates. Both have got so comfortable with others that there is basically the need for them to impress one another as during their initial dates anymore. Sadly, dating has become more of like a routine and habit to them.

To most guys routine dates are actually ok, but again, things is not generally the case for girls. Hmm ... maybe before you go, just a tip for the boys. Well guys, even if the girls would not be complaining but believe me, deep down inside they are still longing for that surprises. Let us not disappoint them, okay? And well girls, please understand that guys are still kids after all. I'm just naturally less insensitive creature, just not that good to express themselves. But that does not mean they do not care about you?

Well anyway, I think we all love surprises and excitement. Life would be so boring without them, not you agree? There would be nothing to look forward to. The same goes for love. Recall all those sweet moments when you had the two that you just started dating. It was not love or perhaps life so fun and exciting then, still waiting for the next date, wondering what surprises would be there for you?

Using a bit 'of imagination, planning little surprises for your love would surely make your love life, going a long way to keep the flame of love. I'm sure you want an interesting love life, always making your love happy? Remember, when your love is happy, happy you.

Hmm ... Perhaps a monthly celebration for a start? One day each month to be able to look forward to an exciting and romantic night together? Oh how nice is not it? Think about it.

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Spiritual Friendships

As we walk our paths in life, we will encounter several forms of friendships. There will be friends of convenience, friends by association, and friends of the heart. Friends of convenience are friendships that you could have simply because both are accessible to each other. These friendships are common in a work or school environment as people are united by place alone. One might also term these friendships as members''instead of friends because they associate with one another because they feel that you need.

These types of friendships can easily disappear as soon as they came or who may actually become more meaningful friendships over time. Then there are friends by association, friendships that exist because of an association with another friend. You can purchase these forms of friendships because of your current friends. You acquire your friend's circle of friends and make them truly unique. These associations can lack strong foundations and even knowledge of each other, but either way, I respect them as part of a friend who originated the event.

Then there are friendships that are few and far between, best friends or friends of the spirit. You can find this form of friendship with or in addition to your partner. This kind of friendship is guided through a deep spiritual bond. Are very strong and spiritually ignited. They can overcome distance. They can overcome cultural and language barriers. Exceed the age and even gender.

There is no convenient or association. These friendships are a sign of respect and purpose. This unit to be connected our hearts to our souls. We remind and encourage our greatness and all contribute to our welfare. These friendships are the purest of levels. They are not sexually motivated. They did not even necessarily rely on the power of any physical contact. They exist at all alone.

That these friendships are touching our hearts. They leave precious imprints where it matters most. These friendships are gifts in themselves as they are aligned with our internal mechanisms and details. They somehow give us comfort, no matter what our moods and it seems that our concerns covered with little or no effort. They do not necessarily exist, but care.

These spiritual friendships allow us to really feel the insides of another. They allow us to close a connection that typically both people can hear the thoughts and emotions of others. We are attracted to them because we are destined to be. These friendships can be confusing and surprising as it could sneak up quickly on us, but friendships do not need to go unnoticed and certainly not forgotten, for as long as they are to stay.

Release

Some people choose to live life differently than ourselves. This applies to children, adults and people in general. Sometimes this does not always leave a lot of room for compromise especially when it comes to a loved one who chooses a different path. Like any journey, is composed of choice, both positive and negative. Some people choose to live a good life and honest some people choose to be destructive and self-limited their willingness to drive. Regardless, it's their choice and their decision to live as they wish.

What happens if you see someone on the path towards a dead end? Well you can take this as a first step to their attention if they wish for your opinion. But then, I'm really on his own and the only thing you can do is let them discover for themselves the consequences. Sometimes action is needed most by your own especially if they destructive behavior begins to affect their personal well-being. In this case you have two choices, or participate or not.

Perhaps it is considered easier part is that you must address the conflict head on. Many people choose this way of thinking, and suffer the emotional turmoil that comes with it. We can not always get their hands on the strings of others' lives, preventing them from falling to the ground. Sometimes the behavior itself extends much our loved ones dying, because they never reach their bottom and not acknowledge their mistake.

The choice to participate is a very difficult task, requiring great strength and adamancy. You must first tackle the problem affecting the person you address their behavior, and then deal with the action you are going to take alone. Everyone has boundaries, but it is up to us to express them to the person who crossed them. Nobody is a mind reader and also for those who are our interpretations can be misinterpreted. Say what you say and how to follow up, follow through with what you say. This can be very difficult, especially if you do not intend to contact the person.

But in some cases this is the best way to make room for someone they really need to see for themselves where they go and what kind of life they are living. Some "see" and others will spiral downwards in the life choices they made. What is important here is protected, however, that your "self" and your "wealth" being affected by their destructive path and behavior. This does not mean you love them less, it just means that you love them at a safe distance.