Many people believe in love at first sight. They believe that in an instant, they know who should be with the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.
On the other hand, some couples spend 10 or 15 years to get to know each other before marriage. They will live together, make major purchases, and even have children, before making a commitment to marry. Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because, even if committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts), the couple do not know how to engage soul.
Finally, some people go to be unhappily single. They want to be married, but they are playing and dating, without setting realistic personal goals for their future.
Maybe you're one of the people I mentioned above. You are in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is this it? I really found my soul mate?"
What if I told you I know your soul mate has more to do with who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect game" to complete you?
Make this because I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy? It made me think how true soul mate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their cores may actually be knitted together for his purposes.
With this thought in mind, here are three ways to recognize your soul mate:
1. Communication between you is clear. "In his excellent book, Why I am afraid to tell you who I am? John Powell describes the five levels of communication: cliche, opinion, fact, emotion, and transparency." - Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey.
Clear communication means that you and your partner can go beyond the clichés, facts, opinions and emotions to a level where you are vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency is not rapidly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behind. Transparency is only with courage, nonjudgemental attitudes and, above all, confidence. And this brings me to my next point.
2. You and your soulmate trust each other completely. This means that there is no need to ask if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thinking of your welfare, or without trial. The trust was created when words and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.
3. You and your soulmate know the meaning of unconditional love. You can say, "Keisha, how can you believe in this concept in this day and age? This kind of love never happens in real life." I am here to say that he does. If you've read some of my other articles, you'll notice all the things to be eliminated from a person's character (selfishness, pride and jealousy) to get there. We can not reach with our will, but for the grace of God and to understand its nature. No matter how hard we try to do our strength and conviction, relying on divine intervention is the only way to get rid of these three defects of character.
Ultimately successful not only soulmates are born at a certain point in time or space to connect by coincidence. Are made over time to be with them for life. If you're wondering if yours is, look inwards and upwards and you're bound to discover more of what you are looking for.
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