You Fit To Love?

It is the most important question you ever ask. Let's face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, they are often the cause of pain and struggle. single standard or not, society convinces us that we can have it all. Much of the consultancy report available requires us to go after all we want. Unfortunately, for many it is not running. Climbing divorce rates and more singles seeking love are proof that our attitudes are counterproductive.

Our expectations have become highly realistic. Rarely looks in the mirror and ask: are in the form of love? Today relationships fail because of deterioration of character. And 'now we've made a point of building successful long term relationships based on the strength of our characters, instead of clever-minded relationship strategies.

Great relationships require great characters. We simply must become better people for each other. Become suitable for love is a strong wake-up call for the bravest. Will greatly improve our relationships or our chances of finding love.
The happiest people are those in exceptional relationships. Are heavily invested in their most important asset: their relationship and have an abundance of life precious commodity: love. All have one thing in common: they are fit to love. At the heart of all exceptional relationships are three universal principles: mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity, and here is what it means:

Mutual Respect: Your partner is as important as you.

Our partner's hopes and dreams are as important as ours. This principle requires us to think of our partners as our equals. Since our generation has made history as ambassadors of our "I" before society, we are more interested in getting what we want. For Bill, everything revolves around golf. Runs every weekend at the golf course while his wife Jane, takes care of their two young children. extra money from their already tight budget is spent on Bill's hobby. Stuck in a house with small children, Jane has little freedom to do or buy something special. Despite Jane's complaints Bill seems completely detached from the fact that he is disrespectful.

relationship conflicts arise because of different perspectives. Lovers discuss who is right, instead solving the issue in their mutual best interest. The struggle over unresolved issues leads to resentment even when there is love. Love and respect take a backseat and the relationship deteriorates. This dangerous game is the reason why many relationships fail when they should not. Instead of trying to change the other or putting our needs first, we must realize that our partner is equally important. Hold in our partner's beliefs we show that we respect our partners. If the conflict and we can not agree, we should simply agree to disagree and continue to speak with respect. Without mutual respect, can not create love relationships.

Moral responsibility: You are always morally responsible for
those with whom we have.

We live in a society that elevates the self above all else. We seek self-fulfillment at any cost, even at the cost of others. Regardless of how many times have we heard that we are not responsible for the happiness of our partners, we are still responsible for his welfare. Love is a moral responsibility to another person. We blame our partners if things do not work without looking in the mirror to see our own faults. Yet, everything we think, say or do affects those we love.

Jennifer had lunch with her friend Sally at a local restaurant. Jennifer could barley wait to share information about his relationship with this young stallion. Sally listened in awe as Jennifer blamed the so-called inattentive husband, Paul. It 'was a strange twist of fate that Paul sat behind the flower-decorated lattice wall listening to every word his wife said. From here on life took a different turn. Jennifer had deceived her husband Paul and has lost the respect of Sally. This is a high price to pay for moments of sex.

In our search for better relations, we must make our relationship a priority. We must concentrate on our relationship not elsewhere.

Authenticity: True love happens only when they are real

Have you ever found out laughing simply because everyone else did? Agreed with the opinion of the partner even if they disagree or say "I love you" when you do not say. Did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone or to get what you wanted? Of course we all have. We have lost the courage to be real!

For many there is quite a gap between the inside and the person who presents to the world. How about Toni, the dad who rents a Porsche to impress his date, despite being delinquent in support of children. Debby spends every Sunday at Grant's parents but resents it. To keep peace, she refrains from claiming some of these Sundays on her terms.

To be validated we often compromise. Conditioned by our environment we have become the products of the culture in which we live does not matter how good we are playing roles eventually our truth emerges. Being fit to love means being real. When we are authentic our relationships become real and we never have to doubt themselves.

Regardless of the state of our relations, without success, or as we tried to find the love that we have the power to radically change today. Mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity are key to the exceptional relations. People exceptional relationships are fit to love and in the process of reap some profound rewards:

· They live a much happier
· They deal much better with stress
· They have better sex more often
· They laugh more often and have more fun
· They are healthier and live longer
· I'm more optimistic
· They feel more secure and stable

No wonder that envy these people. In times like these, spiced with enormous uncertainty their relationships are as solid as rock anchors. Mahatma Gandhi said: "A coward is incapable of exhibiting love, it is the prerogative of the brave." We must be brave!

© 2005 Allie Ochs